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People who have been involved in online social lives in the past few years or so, before Facebook was launched, may remember the then unmatched popularity of such early chat based applications as Yahoo! Messenger, MSN Messenger or even AOL Messenger and Windows Live Messenger. Now it appears that Facebook Chat has taken this coveted spot, with around a billion messages being sent between members every day.

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Albeit popular, Facebook Chat does have some faults, most notably the lack of some features that are usually standard for a chat application such as email notifications upon signing in and the option to view your chat history. This is understandable, given the relative simplicity and the lack of a need to install anything, but it may be a hindrance for some people. Hence this article, which is meant to teach you how to utilize other software in order to have a Facebook Chat experience that you can customize into a truly unique one.

There are many instant messenger programs that one can customize for use with Facebook Chat. Here are some notable ones:

Meebo – This is a browser based chat messenger that allows you to log into several messaging networks at once, including Facebook chatting. This allows you to log into your messaging networks while using a computer that does not have their respective applications installed. It is, however, not as compatible with Facebook as it is with other messaging programs, which is most seen in the fact that Facebook users are not able to see emoticons sent through Meebo.

Pidgin – This is an instant messaging service that may be modified for use with Facebook Chat with the use of a third party plugin or two. A popular messaging program, Pidgin will allow you to chat with multiple Facebook users on the same interface. Despite these, it has also been reported to suffer from connection problems and a few issues regarding the formatting of messages sent through Facebook. However, it has one special advantage: Pidgin allows you to add a proxy in order to bypass Facebook blocking, just in case you need your computer to be connected.

Adium – This messenger application is specifically designed to give Mac users the opportunity to get connected in the Microsoft dominated world of compatibility. It is compatible with not only Facebook Chat, but also Skype, Google Talk, Yahoo! Messenger and many more.

Unfortunately, not a lot of people fully understand the benefits of going casual. With casual dating, everyone is given the chance to check out the options, learn, get experience, make mistakes along the way, and yet be able to recover without having to deal with the trauma of separation. For those who grew up in the eighties and nineties who are now moving in together in such a short span of time of being together do not see the importance of taking it slow and seeing things from a different perspective. It helps to be given the liberty to pull back and reassess the relationship before jumping right in.

Casual dating only works if both parties are honest. It is better to be upfront with the person you’re dating about your true intentions so that right from the start, they already have the chance to decide whether they’re in the right frame of mind to accept the non-exclusivity of your partnership. Although the romantic ideal of falling in love with just your one great love is still there, there are actually a lot of women who are very open to the idea of casual dating, especially if they feel that they haven’t met the right one yet. There is actually nothing wrong with enjoying the company of other people and learning from each other. Besides, why agonize over the long wait when you can have some fun as you go along?

However, the dangers in casual dating arise when both parties are not completely honest about their expectations and intentions. There is the possibility that she will freak out when she realizes that you are not being faithful to the expectations she has set in mind. Or worse, she might even feel used when she finds out that you are moving on to another relationship without her. Ultimately, the key here is honesty. The emotional stress of being involved with someone you trusted with your heart yet only used you is hard for a woman to bear. Those who have been victims of this usually become guarded in their next relationships. It is possible that paranoia and doubt may cloud a woman’s judgment after going through a traumatizing experience such as this.

Although it seems complicated at first, casual dating can actually be very simple. Your female friends can be advisers when it comes to giving truthful opinions about your notions and beliefs on relationships. Having a good friend from the opposite sex can help you understand better how women like to be treated, which can be very helpful to you when the right woman comes along.

One thing you should remember about casual dating is that you should keep your feelings and the direction you are heading in check at all times. Casual dating doesn’t automatically translate into casual sex. There is a big difference between casual dating and entering into a sexual relationship wherein there is absolutely no emotional involvement. Not all women easily give in to casual sex, but in casual dating, there is a possibility that a woman may eventually grow into it over time.

Men, however, are more inclined to associating casual dating to casual sex, thinking that both mean the same thing. Whatever the situation is, there is a need for involved parties to come to terms before getting ahead of themselves. It helps to settle and clarify beforehand what the score is between the two, and how you plan to move forward. That is why disagreements are impossible to avoid in any relationship. One party may feel hurt when boundaries are violated. This is where strong communication comes in.

In this setup, there is always the possibility that you or the other person will find that the old feelings are starting to change. It happens that one may start developing strong emotional feelings for the other, or it could also be that one is losing interest and decides not to move forward with the relationship. Whatever the case, it is imperative that these changes should be addressed immediately. Rarely does anyone get involved with someone and not develop feelings, especially when there is sex involved. It happens sooner or later than is expected. There is the possibility of it being mutual, yet in some cases, it can be one-sided. If it is the latter, then it would be best for both parties to hold off on the relationship until new terms can be agreed on. This scenario can be unfair and difficult for both, especially for the one who is developing those committed relationship feelings.

For women, this idea of casual developing first developed when they learned the value of going to the restroom in groups. Somehow the bathroom has become a place where women converge to size up their dates, and assess and determine for each other the value of the guy they each brought along on the date. Most of the time, they talk about whether the guy is worth taking home or when it would be best return phone calls after the guy is replaced by someone much better. Women now have the prerogative to decide who she likes to spend her time with and how far she’s willing to go. She may, however, run into a couple of roadblocks, such as resistance to her lack of commitment from family members. For a woman to keep you in her casual company longer, it’s best to make her feel secure and protected whenever you’re around.

No doubt about it, people just want to milk everything as much as they can, and that is why so many people are taking advantage of all things free, and that includes online dating sites. Because online dating using Craigslist Personals is becoming more popular, lots and lots of people from all walks of life use it to look around for dates. While there are some people in the site that seem perfect for you, having such charm and being a wonderful conversationalists, many out there are just plain jerks who don’t know how to go about a date and that is why they stick to meeting people online instead of meeting them personally. But we have to leave these people a certain benefit of the doubt because we don’t know the reason behind why they stick to online dating sites.
Based on many people’s experience, paid online dating sites fare better and can have larger probabilities of you meeting someone better. Of course, it might cost you some money, but it will not hurt to give extra effort and money to having a successful date. For one, you know that people who use paid dating sites are more financially stable as compared to those who use free sites. And if these people are willing to shell out some money to find “the one”, then they might be people who have better personalities and are for socially adept.

Another disadvantage of online dating using Craigslist Personals is that there’s a big chance of getting many spam mails as possible. Getting your mail box trashed with so much spam emails adds insult to the injury that you can’t get a decent date out of the dating site. All the more that it’s a slap to your face that the spam you always receive are full of positive testimonials about some guy meeting a girl and they eventually got married.

But of course, these disadvantages are not without advantages as their opposites. There are also some perks into trying out online dating using Craigslist Personals. For one thing, it is absolutely free and you won’t have to spend any money just to meet new people –only you have to be a little careful in who you meet. And we can’t just disregard that while there are some people who can’t say anything good about these dating sites, there are some people who’ve experienced better situations than most people who complain. Online dating using Craigslist Personals is a perfect venue to take some practice out of learning how to start a conversation and keep it going with interesting topics. And because all you have to communicate with are words, you get to learn how to be more charming by just saying the right words and expressions to get people’s attention. When you see more positive responses from people, that’s when you’ll know that it’s time to road test those communication skills in bars and parties.

But you always have to have caution when it comes to dating sites. Because Craigslist Personals don’t charge you anything to use it, some people take it to advantage but with different motives. This is why dating scams are more prevalent around free dating sites. Some even have those mail-to-order bride scams infamous in Russia. You have to keep your eyes peeled for some signs that they are, indeed, scams and are there to rip you off some money. Never date someone who sends you a picture that looks like it’s taken 5 years ago, because they might be hiding something about their present. And someone who asks for  money or for you to buy him or her a plane tickets is an obvious signal that they are just exploiting your kindness to them. Scams like these are mostly operated by women who know how to toy with men’s emotions, especially those who seem desperate enough to have a woman by their side, whether it’s because of their sexual deprivation, or if they really want to settle down with a wife.

Always remember that joining free dating sites like Craigslist Personals have their own risks, so you have to be extra careful in letting too much of your information known.

If you prefer paid dating sites, Match.com or eharmony might be good choices for you.

Instead, it was the Twitterverse that brought them together.

“It was so random and just so weird. I think about how crazy it’s been that we met online in a place where we’re so restricted in what we can say,” said Wardzala, who teaches classes and workshops at the Apple store on Michigan Avenue.

Both new to the microblogging service in 2007, Wardzala and Magdelyn Skacan ended up following each other, at first sharing 140-character tweets about computer problems and sci-fi movies. It wasn’t long before they were on their way to tweet love.

They exchanged e-mails, talked on the phone and hopped on planes to visit each other. And in May 2008, Skacan moved to the Windy City.

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Dating is a complex thing and it needs careful consideration. Whether you consider yourself an old timer in dating or a novice, there are a lot of things that need to be learned. You can only learn so much from experience; outside advice is also needed to make sure that your dating style and love life flourishes healthily.

The thing with dating is that you cannot simply master it overnight. Nobody becomes a dating expert in just one sitting. Similarly, one needs to understand that there is not one solution to solve all dating problems, nor there is a set of universal dating rules that can be applicable in all situations. You would need to learn several things on how to make things flourish as it were.

Here are some tips that are considered somehow universal, but bear in mind that situations are all different, and so you need to know advice what to apply in that specific situation.

1. Be prepared. Dating depends on the condition of your brain. You need to put your head and heart into dating if you want to succeed. If you’re dragging yourself to go to dates, then you don’t have the right mindset. You have to set goals and keep the right mindset so that you’d be prepared for anything, even rejection.
2. Check your state of mind. Think about your goals and your purposes in dating. Why do you date? Is it because you want and you see yourself getting married in the next year or so? Is it purely about appearance or sex? Answer these questions honestly and let your answer be your guide in your dating.
3. Be wise. Choose someone who fits your personality well. Be realistic when it comes to choosing someone. You might be dating a perfect package physically but if he or she fails to create a connection with you, then it might be time to consider your options.
4. Invest in yourself. You’re out to meet other people, so why not invest in yourself? Look your best. You can start by signing up in a gym or a health club. Start eating well stopping bad habits that could take a toll on your health and appearance. Start a grooming ritual. When you do this, you’ll look and feel better about yourself. This will build confidence and confidence attracts people.
5. Invest in style. People will gauge how you are based on what you wear. Make sure that you get clean and nice outfits for your wardrobe. Classic, clean pieces will never fail to impress and attract the opposite sex. New clothes and a clean, groomed appearance exude confidence and effort on your part to look good. Remember that only buy things that you feel comfortable in and will flatter your body well. Your date will appreciate it.
6. Find places to meet other people. There are lots of places to meet other single people like you. The gym is a good place to start. Try sports clubs, art galleries and other places where potential partners may be. Other than you meeting other people, it wouldn’t hurt to stimulate another interest, would it?
7. Find like-minded people and surround yourself with them. Find other people who have similar goals as you do when it comes to dating. This can help you realize your goals better as you get the encouragement that you need in achieving what you want. They provide a positive energy in your quest of finding the one for you.
8. Rest. You might be going around dating too much that it’s causing stress and fatigue. Rest and stop as you will need refuelling. You need to stop and let your positive energies regenerate so that you’ll not give up prematurely on your goals. Your brain needs reconditioning to continue its good function in your dating adventures. You need to enjoy dating, and making it stressful by not stopping when you need to will not help at all. Set-up a schedule and learn to time your dates.
9. Use the element of surprise and mystery. Everybody loves a good mystery. You need not reveal everything about yourself on the first date. Mystery stirs curiosity, and this adds to the thrill of it all. Having areas that are not revealed yet makes them want to have you and chase after you.
10. Enjoy. You’re supposed to find dating fun. Dating is not a chore because you’re meeting new people and having a blast. You stimulate your intellectual and social aspect, and this a good thing for a person’s growth. You learn from people and people learn from you. Who knows, you might meet people who become your lifetime friends, or better, the one you spend your life with.

No matter where you go, who you see, or what you do, dating involves a certain process of planning. The art of being able to skillfully pull off a painless, memorable, and even romantic date is something that takes time, thought and effort on both sides. The first meeting is normally the most awkward, as both partners are struggling to get to know each other without asking forbidden questions, or do things that will unknowingly put the other person off. Second dates are relatively easier and more smooth-sailing, and successive dates determine whether or not there is real relationship potential between the two parties.

However, to a person who is new to dating, making major mistakes or committing serious dating no-no’s are more common than he or she thinks. Unfortunately, while many people share a Utopian, dreamy vision of what their ideal date would be like, in reality, the executions are a lot more flawed, thus resulting to major boo-boo’s that may prevent a couple from going on a second or third date. The first few dates are crucial to ensuring that relationship potential may arise, and so knowing how to deal with the first handful of meetings is extremely vital. Newbies in dating must know that there are certain do’s and don’ts that come with modern dating.

What You SHOULD Do When Dating

1. Seriously? Enjoy yourself. That’s the number-one rule. When your date sees that you are genuinely having fun, then he or she will eventually relax into the evening, making it more memorable and easy for both of you. When he or she sees that you are tense and stiff as rod, he or she will naturally feel as awkward, and both of you will struggle to make it through the evening.
2. Punctuality is always important. Yes, sometimes being “fashionably late” works, but not in the case of dating. Trust us when we say that your date will appreciate you making it a bit easier for him or her by showing up on the scheduled time. If you are going to be late, have the decency to tell him or her beforehand.
3. Engage yourself in conversations. Conversations are not a one-way street. Even if you’re naturally an introvert, go out of your shell and make the effort to get to know your date-and of course, allow him or her to get to know you as well.
4. Pay your date a compliment. Chances are he or she took a lot of time and effort getting ready for the evening, and will be nervous about seeing you. Ease his or her nerves a bit by telling him or her how great he or she looks.
5. Never go on a blind date, or go out with someone that your friends like and you don’t. Friends are important, but at the end of the day, you will be the one dating the person. So never go out with someone just because your friends told you that you should.
6. If you find that after the first few dates, the sparks still aren’t flying, don’t prolong the agony and be upfront and honest about it. Your date will appreciate your truthfulness and concern for him or her. Don’t lead a person on unless you truly believe that you will end up a couple.
7. Make an effort to create plans. While spontaneity works a lot of times, the first few dates are better planned than winged at the last minute as these are the more awkward moments of the dating process.
8. Don’t be idle if you want to meet someone. You need to get yourself out that door and actively searching for a person you’re interested in. The right person won’t just appear out of thin air.
9. Never let yourself be brought down by an unsuccessful date. It doesn’t end there. There are more fishes in the sea, and if you hang out with people who are also positive thinkers, you will be more motivated to carry on.

What You SHOULDN’T Do When Dating

1. Do NOT-we repeat-do NOT go out with someone who is already married to someone else. This is the number one rule in dating. Do not do this unless you are ready to get your heart broken. The chances and likelihood of them choosing you over their spouse are low. Plus the deception will make you miserable and cranky.
2. No matter what, never ever have sex during a first date! If you really want to see what a person is like, the way to get to know them is not through physical pleasure, but through interesting conversations. You will also find that a great date is someone who respects you enough not to bed you on your first get-together.
3. Be careful about divulging personal information like private contact details and ID numbers. You never know who you’re dealing with until you get to know them better. In line with this, keep your security in mind by bringing cell phones and letting your friends know where you will be and how they can contact you. Never go on a first date in a dark and dusky place. Make sure it’s in a public area where you can be seen and heard.
4. Don’t drink too much on your first date, as this can be offensive and off-putting. Allow yourself to be respected.
5. Don’t play the field while on the date and scope out other potential prospects while you’re at it. Simply put, this is just rude.
6. Maintain that air of mystery by not spilling your guts out to a person on a first date. Chances are they will also not appreciate knowing every single detail about you right away-this is too overwhelming and awkward. Don’t always appear eager about scheduling dates either. You may be free all week, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to make sure you two go out every single night.
7. Be honest. Your date will find it refreshing. Even if the story isn’t pretty, they will have to accept it as a potential partner. They will have to know who you really and are and what your background is in order to accept it, which they also must do if they are interested in a relationship with you.
8. Let your date know about the changes in your plans-whether you will be late or will have to cancel at the last minute. And have the grace to apologize, please. If you need to reschedule, propose a date but don’t assume that this will push through unless they confirm their availability.
9. Don’t appear desperate and keep texting or calling your date after you have just seen each other. This reeks of attention-seeking syndrome and will only just turn him or her off. At the end of the day, leave them with something to do for you. Don’t crowd their answering machines with messages that plead for them to call your right back. It’s just not right.